Are you actively looking for someone?
I answered, "yes" and what he said next shocked me and reassured me.
Stop it! Live your life. The universe will find the person for you.
In other words, Let Go and Let God. Life is a lot better when I just live it and not worry too much about if I am doing everything the way I am supposed to. What he said was also a lot more reassuring than when other people have told me "to put myself out there" with the implication that I am not doing enough. My recovery comes first! I simply cannot spend all my time looking and searching for a significant other, but I must trust that everything that I need will happen in its own time.
Another thing that he said that I keep on thinking about is this:
Tomorrow will be different than today.
This is actually a quote from his father who lived into his nineties. His father was born in 1914 and think of all the changes that have happened in technology in his lifetime! And then think of the changes in his personal life-he said this particular saying in the last year of his life, when he went from being independent to living with his children. The point is, no matter how bad or how good life is, one thing is for certain-it will change! When I was younger, my philosophy could be summed up as, "I hate change," but now I almost love it, because I know that change is often wonderful. I keep on thinking and thinking about how different my life is from a year ago today. A year ago, I was still miserable in Milledgeville, with a horrible job at a major department store. Today, even though I am living with my parents, I am much happier and am about to start a job that should be much more suited for my personality. Change is good and I am glad that I finally am accepting this, because you know, it is inevitable.