Immediately after Thanksgiving is Black Friday and then Small Business Saturday, Cyber Monday and Giving Tuesday! Whew! That's a lot of spending! If you go to church, many churches start their campaign to know how much people will be tithing in the next year. Many organizations will push for members to pool moneys together to buy an expensive present for their leader(s). There are the many holiday parties with the $10-20 gift exchange, which may not seem like much until one considers the fact that I have been invited to nine-NINE!-holiday parties! Only three of them are having a gift exchange and I am only attending one of those three, but you can see the potential for a financial problem. There's the Salvation Army ringing its bells at the grocery store and the Toys for Tots drive as advertised on the radio and the plethora of well meaning social and religious groups seem to constantly talk about "adopting" families for Christmas. These things are all great, unless you're someone who doesn't have a lot of money or time to spare and then it's time to remember who you really are.
Who I am is a beloved child of God. I am enough, even if I do not buy everything on my loved one's Christmas list. I am still a kind person, even if I do not sponsor a child, promise to tithe, or buy a toy for a tot. I can be kind to myself by reminding myself of these things and I can be kind to others by doing small acts of kindness towards them, even if I can't do big, showy ones.
I used to feel very insecure whenever the word, "fundraiser," was brought up and I will admit that it's still something I struggle with sometimes, but remembering all the little ways that I contribute on a daily basis helps me stay in reality. People with borderline personality disorder often have an unstable sense of self (identity) and so struggle with feeling insecure and empty a lot. Making a list of ways that you already contribute to the world can help remind you of your real self and your self-worth.
Here is a List of Some Ways That I Contribute to My World:
- Make Dinners for the Family
- Grocery Shop for the Family
- Feed Cat
- Volunteer at an Assisted Living Home
- Take My Medications
- Work On Staying Peaceful In My Recovery
Those last ones are BIG! Even if we cannot do much monetarily, taking care of ourselves and our recovery is a big way that we can give back to our community. If I can sponsor tons of poor families and buy tons of presents, but I am always in crisis and am stressful to be around, then how much pleasure, joy, and thanksgiving am I really contributing to the world?
I usually make a fair amount of the gifts I give for Christmas. I really enjoy making them and as I make them, I think about the person and my blessings go into the product. A recent foodie gift were the pumpkin pie cupcakes I made for the church Thanksgiving feast a few weeks ago. Supposedly, the small size makes them an easy way to have a smaller portion, but considering the fact that I ate three the day I made them, I'm not so sure...They're really addicting! I got the recipe from the blog, Culinary Couture.
Ingredients:
2/3 cup all-purpose flour
1 and 1/2 teaspoons pumpkin pie spice
1/4 teaspoon baking powder
1/4 teaspoon baking soda
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 and 1/2 cups pure pumpkin
1/2 cup granulated sugar
1/4 cup brown sugar
2 large eggs
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
3/4 cup skim milk
1 and 1/2 teaspoons pumpkin pie spice
1/4 teaspoon baking powder
1/4 teaspoon baking soda
1/4 teaspoon salt
1 and 1/2 cups pure pumpkin
1/2 cup granulated sugar
1/4 cup brown sugar
2 large eggs
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
3/4 cup skim milk
Directions:
1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Line a muffin tin with 11 foil cupcake liners (If using regular cupcake liners, make sure you spray them generously. It is highly recommended to use foil liners so the cupcakes will slide out easily).2. In a medium-sized bowl, whisk together flour, pumpkin pie spice, baking powder, baking soda, and salt. Set aside.
3. In another bowl, using an electric hand mixer, beat together pumpkin, sugars, eggs, vanilla, and milk until well-combined. Then, stir in dry ingredients until well blended.
4. Pour batter into prepared muffin cups, filling each cupcake liner 3/4 of the way full. Bake for 20-25 minutes.
5. Let cool in tin for 20 minutes, then transfer to a refrigerator and chill for 30 minutes. Top with a dollop of whipped cream before serving.
Link Love:
Conventional thinking has it
that pursuing success will lead to happiness, but research has shown that it
may be just the opposite. Pursuing happiness leads not only to happiness
itself, but also to success, according to Shawn Achor, author of The Happiness
Advantage.
I don't know
if I'm a sex positive feminist, because I've seen that defined a lot of
different ways, some of which resonate with me and some of which don't, but I
am without question a consent
positive feminist.
Why does it matter that Saving
Mr. Banks sabotages its supposed heroine? Because in a Hollywood
where men still pen 85 percent of all films, there's something sour in a movie
that roots against a woman who asserted her artistic control by asking to be a
co-screenwriter. (Another battle she lost —Mary
Poppins' opening credits list Travers as merely a
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Planet of the Blind - Disability and the Middle Ages, or, How to Count Your Blessings Stupid
There are two interesting
rhetorical questions here. We know why the fraud has become a joke: disability
has never stopped being a joke. It was always a joke because god willed it
so—the infirm, the unseeing, the deaf were put on this earth to make “fit
people” count their blessings. This is why American churches are not required
to conform to the Americans with Disabilities Act. Don’t delude yourself: the
cripples are not among the elect. They never were.
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