It is more useful to be aware of a single shortcoming in ourselves than it is to be aware of a thousand in somebody else. ~ His Holiness the 14th Dalai LamaI am loving this new format! Here are two excepts from conversations I had on a recovery social media site. I am posting my words only and I'm not going to provide a link or to give more details for confidentiality reasons. The first is responding to a post about being triggered and urges to self-harm. The second time was responding to a post I had started about the difficulty of self-care when being physically sick.
No matter how well we are, there is always going to be the potential to be triggered and to want to respond in self-destructive ways. When I can recognize that though and be able to stop myself and do something else... That's really pretty cool. I think recovery is about fine tuning our self-awareness but getting to where we are not intimidated by it. In other words:
Recovery is about fine tuning our self-awareness but not living in fear.I have a hard time being okay with taking it easy and spending a whole day sleeping or relaxing. I constantly feel the need to be productive. Of course, this leads to a faster burnout. I'm trying to tell myself that I am able to get more done if I actually slow down and take care of myself. Hard to unlearn the old way of thinking that I need to be perfect. In other words:
I do not need to prove my worth by extreme levels of busy-ness. Sacha Chua. A Creative Commons license. (I really like her stuff!)