I talk honestly and openly about my experiences with mental illness, fibromyalgia, and chronic fatigue syndrome through the lens of feminism, fat acceptance and process theology. I also do recipe and book reviews. My mission is to spread the message that hope is always real for a better life, despite living in a world that is often very harsh.

Tuesday, May 24, 2016

Emotion Myths

Our feelings are not there to be cast out or conquered. They’re there to be engaged and expressed with imagination and intelligence.” 
― T.K. ColemanFreedom Without Permission: How to Live Free in a World That Isn't
Last week in DBT we were asked to go through a worksheet full of emotion myths and to write down ways of challenging them.  The worksheet also had some answers in case one got stuck.  I did not do all of the myths but just the ones that really resonated with me.  I thought I would share my own challenges and the included challenges that really moved me.   

Myth: Letting others know that I am feeling bad is a weakness. 
Challenge: My job is not to please others.
Myth: Being emotional means being out of control. 
Challenge: Being emotional means that I am human.
  Myth: All painful emotions are a result of a bad attitude. 
  Challenge: All painful emotions provide useful information.
 
Myth: Drama is cool. 
Challenge: I used to think drama is cool, now I know that it is exhausting.
 Myth: It is inauthentic to try to change my emotions. 
 Challenge: I do not need to suffer. 
 Provided Challenge: Change is itself authentic; it is part of life.
 Myth: Emotional truth is what counts, not factual truth. 
Challenge: Emotional truth and factual truth both count.
 Myth: People should do whatever they feel like doing. 
Challenge: Balance is key. 
Provided Challenge: Doing what I feel like doing can be ineffective.
Myth: Acting on your emotions is the mark of a truly free individual. 
Challenge: Being able to regulate my own emotions is the mark of a truly free individual.  I will no longer be a slave to intense  emotions. 
Provided Challenge: The truly free person can regulate emotions. 
My Response To The Provided Challenge: The truly free person honors boundaries.
Myth: My emotions are who I am. 
Challenge: My emotions are a part of who I am but not my totality.
 Myth: My emotions are why people love me.
Challenge: People love me because I am a cool person!  
 Myth: Emotions can just happen for no reason.
Challenge: Every emotion is produced by an interpretation to an event.  Recognizing this will mean that I will have simultaneously more freedom and more control - I will be able to more thoroughly have the life I want.
 Myth: Emotions should always be trusted. 
Challenge: Emotions should always be honored and honoring their information is not the same as trusting them as truth. 

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