quality of life is directly proportional to the delight you can take in discussion. (19, Plato's Podcasts: The Ancients' Guide to Modern Living, Mark Vernon)
I was all set.
I was going to set boundaries and be ferocious.
I was also terrified.
I made the call to set up the appointment for a face-to-face encounter. She, of course, could only speak on the phone. I went ahead and asked the question I needed to ask before really letting her have it.....
......and she was nice and polite and totally gave me the answer I had wanted.
There had been no reason for me to be angry in the first place. There had been nothing wrong - I just needed to have the courage to ask her some clarifying questions.
Once again, my assumptions made an ass out of me.
Immediately after having this conversation I facilitated the creative writing group and so it was with this lesson in mind that I wrote my letter:
It is good to stand up for yourself. Conflict is not bad and does not have to be scary. Conflict helps people grow. You are not a bad person or need to feel guilty if you have to ask questions or advocate for yourself. Even if you have to cause another person discomfort in order to get your needs met. You deserve to be happy and to have what is important to you understood.
Remember that more people will try to help you and be receptive to your input and ideas than you will give them credit for. You live in a world of fear, but the world is far more wonderful than you can comprehend. Spend more of your time basking in the sun of love than in the shadow of fear.
Remember your worth.
Remember your rights.
Be strong knowing who you are. You are a person uniquely made and qualified to help make the world a better place and in order to do a good job you must speak your mind.
Your mind is worth sharing.
Your older yet still learning and growing self.