Immediately after Thanksgiving is Black Friday and then Small Business Saturday, Cyber Monday and Giving Tuesday! Whew! That's a lot of spending! If you go to church, many churches start their campaign to know how much people will be tithing in the next year. Many organizations will push for members to pool moneys together to buy an expensive present for their leader(s). There are the many holiday parties with the $10-20 gift exchange, which may not seem like much until one considers the fact that I have been invited to nine-NINE!-holiday parties! Only three of them are having a gift exchange and I am only attending one of those three, but you can see the potential for a financial problem. There's the Salvation Army ringing its bells at the grocery store and the Toys for Tots drive as advertised on the radio and the plethora of well meaning social and religious groups seem to constantly talk about "adopting" families for Christmas. These things are all great, unless you're someone who doesn't have a lot of money or time to spare and then it's time to remember who you really are.
Who I am is a beloved child of God. I am enough, even if I do not buy everything on my loved one's Christmas list. I am still a kind person, even if I do not sponsor a child, promise to tithe, or buy a toy for a tot. I can be kind to myself by reminding myself of these things and I can be kind to others by doing small acts of kindness towards them, even if I can't do big, showy ones.
I used to feel very insecure whenever the word, "fundraiser," was brought up and I will admit that it's still something I struggle with sometimes, but remembering all the little ways that I contribute on a daily basis helps me stay in reality. People with borderline personality disorder often have an unstable sense of self (identity) and so struggle with feeling insecure and empty a lot. Making a list of ways that you already contribute to the world can help remind you of your real self and your self-worth.
Here is a List of Some Ways That I Contribute to My World:
Pumpkin Pie Cupcakes
1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Line a muffin tin with 11 foil cupcake liners (If using regular cupcake liners, make sure you spray them generously. It is highly recommended to use foil liners so the cupcakes will slide out easily).
2. In a medium-sized bowl, whisk together flour, pumpkin pie spice, baking powder, baking soda, and salt. Set aside.
3. In another bowl, using an electric hand mixer, beat together pumpkin, sugars, eggs, vanilla, and milk until well-combined. Then, stir in dry ingredients until well blended.
(What a beautiful orange color-I just adore pumpkin!)
4. Pour batter into prepared muffin cups, filling each cupcake liner 3/4 of the way full. Bake for 20-25 minutes.
5. Let cool in tin for 20 minutes, then transfer to a refrigerator and chill for 30 minutes. Top with a dollop of whipped cream before serving.
I baked them for the full 25 minutes-the top will be firm and the bottom will be slightly custard-y. The tops will sink, but that's just because they want you to fill them up with whip cream! And do refrigerate them-I know it's hard to wait, but they do taste better cold.
If only we had Willy Wonka-like computers and could reach into the screen and grab that cupcake!
I packed them up and everyone enjoyed my gift of cupcakes! They're nearly gluten-free, since they have very little flour and I used Splenda, so they were basically spiced vegetables, right? Right? Well....
Beautiful! A swirl of Redi-Whip makes them complete. They're light and tasty and completely addictive. Everybody was appreciative. So what if I cannot always give in big, showy ways? I can give in tasty, caring, and peaceful ways and that is enough.